Here are 21 psychology tips on how to read people’s actions and body language fluently

Having the ability to read people’s mind or their intentions is veritable a magical wand in your hand in which you can manipulate any situation or a person to your advantage. Some people are naturally gifted with highly perceptive brains and strong gut feelings which help them to chart their future plan of action smoothly but for those who are not the gifted ones you can easily gain the skills by learning the “body language” of people. Non-verbal communication imparts almost 55% of information through mimics, hand gestures and other body gesticulations. If you are sharp enough to read those signals you can easily grasp the intentions and thoughts of the other person without anyone getting any wiser.

When people close the eyes

If a person has this habit of communicating with their eyes closed through most of the conversation, you can be sure they are hiding from the outer world. It does not necessarily mean that they are intimidated by you, in fact, they are really annoyed of you and want to end the discussion and trying to get rid of you assuming by closing their eyes, you may take the hint and disappear.

When people close the eyes

Covering the mouth with a hand

This is a plain attempt to hide real thoughts coming out of the mouth and therefore people resort to covering their mouth by palms or fingers or even fake a cough which means they do not want to continue the particular discussion any further, so drop the topic instantly. This is rooted in childhood when as children we would cover our mouths when not wanting to say something.

Covering the mouth with a hand

Biting the arms of their spectacles

When you see a person biting the arms of their spectacles it means they are in a dilemma of trying to make tough decisions. They need help from friends at this vulnerable juncture. Anything like chewing gum, pencil butt, pen ends or a cigarette gives them the fall sense of security during their dilemmas and that’s where you as a friend must step in. Biting on something takes a human back to his childhood where he experienced the utmost security while feeding at his mother’s breast.

Biting the arms of their spectacles

Presentation of the face

This gesture is usually meant to attract the opposite sex and demand their attention directly. When you have a pretty lady put her face up on her hands , chins out with her whole face on a display for your advantage, it’s the right time to pay a compliment and take notice otherwise you might be in a bit of a quandary. That’s the best hint that she too is interested.

Presentation of the face

Rubbing one’s chin

Rubbing one’s chin and being lost in thought means the person is deep in contemplation and making decisions in his mind. They might be completely oblivious to their immediate surroundings as their minds are busy solving deep problems of their own. So the best maneuver is to leave them be till they are back on the same planet as us.

Rubbing one’s chin

Crossed arms

This is a position of self-preservation and self-defense, not from any physical attack but from the volley of new ideas hurled at them. Many people resort to such a position as they feel confident. Also, this gesture signifies irritation and the vibes clearly sent are the discussion is not interesting or stimulating and it should end as soon as possible.

Crossed arms

Fixing one’s appearance

Again this position is basically to attract attention from the opposite sex and used mostly by women to entice men. She would straighten her back to accentuate her curves and crossed legs to show her shapely legs. These gestures show great attraction and interest towards the opposite gender and should not be ignored.

Fixing one’s appearance

Leaning forward

When a person is physically attracted to someone, on impulse, their upper body would lean in front towards the person of interest; it’s an intuitive move and usually cannot be controlled unless you are highly aware of yourself.

Leaning forward

Leaning back

This is the bang opposite of the position discussed earlier. Here the person has no inclination towards the other person and leans back on a chair which shows disdain towards the conversations and perhaps their discomfort in the presence of others, so it’s wise to wrap up the meeting fast.

Leaning back

Swinging from heels to toes

Yes, even grown-ups do it which is a display of anxiety or nerves about an impending appointment or meeting or even a date! This is a problem that stems from our childhood when out of anxiety or nervousness we would resort to such actions.

Swinging from heels to toes

Rubbing hands

Rubbing hands before starting a conversation or even a dinner means the person is excited and happy about the event. It shows optimism and a hope that their future endeavors would bring them benefits. Rubbing hands is always a sign of positive pleasure.

Man Rubbing hands

“Gloved” handshake

If while shaking hands a person warmly engulfs your whole palms as well as reaches out to your wrist with the other hand, it means he is a warm friendly guy and can be trusted. This is also a sign of friendship and signifies a measure of trust.

“Gloved” handshake

Handshake when a palm faces the ceiling

If a person places his palm on top of your hand instantly while shaking hands, it shows his caring and sympathetic nature. But if this gesture is slow and occurs after a few seconds, it reflects he is in charge of the matters here and he is the boss.

Handshake when a palm faces the ceiling

Handshaking with a palm facing the floor

If the handshake in which the person holds your palm from below means he is ready to help you in any way he can. This is also a subconscious sign that the person is willing to cooperate with you in a manner of being a subordinate even though he may not be one.

Handshaking with a palm facing the floor

A Handshake with a touch

Handshake with a touch on your arms or elbow means that the other person has limited communication skills and the closer his touch goes towards your torso means he badly needs company. But be careful of it. This could also means an invasion of private territory if the interaction is between people of 2 different genders.

A Handshake with a touch

Fixing one’s tie

This gesture has a different meaning in different context. For example, if a man adjusts his tie near pretty girls that means he is attracted to them, on the other hand, if this gesture is repeated before a meeting, it means the person is nervous so much so that he would want to leave the place or he has lied to someone or about to lie.

Fixing one’s tie

Collecting hairs that aren’t there

People have a funny way to show their disagreements and one such way is a displacement gesture which could be dusting invisible specks of dust from your clothes or collecting invisible strands of hair. It means your audience though disagreeing with you tries not being vocal about it or speaking their reservations out clearly. It is safe to assume that the other person is in silent disagreement with you.

Collecting hairs that aren’t there

Putting one’s feet on the desk

This gesture has a lot of different meanings again, depending upon the situation. In an office it shows disrespect to the authorities and rudeness to colleagues, indirectly attempting to establish their superiority over others. But in medical situations this could mean a position in which the person feels relaxed and comfortable, but whatever be the case this gesture should be limited at home.

Putting one’s feet on the desk

Mounting a chair like a horse

This position is an impulsive one taken by dominating people because this position makes them feel aggressive. It intimidates as well as annoys many as they get the hint as well. To counter it remains standing while speaking with such person while he gallops in his chair horse.

Mounting a chair like a horse

Playing with a shoe

When a woman sits crossed legged exposing her legs it’s meant to attract the attention of the opposite gender. Added to this playing or toying with her shoes means she is calm and playful and looking forward for any sort advances made by a man.

Playing with a shoe

Eye contact

Many poets have written that eyes are the windows to one’s heart and soul. It’s true to the extent that you can clearly read all the emotions and, fear and trepidation as well as hope a person shows you when he looks at you, only if you are observant enough. If the pupils dilate that means the person is attracted to you and if the eyes are beady and pupils contract that means then you should run for a cover because the person is really mad at you.

Eye contact

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